Today is officially Day 2 of my 60 Days of Mini-Mindfulness journey. Each day, I’ll focus on—& practice—one technique of mini-mindfulness, or one way to be mindful that actually fits into my (& your?) busy schedule. I’ll go back & craft a post soon on yesterday’s technique of heart breathing, a la the HeartMath Institute. But for now, allow me to share a little about some amazing stuff I experienced today.
I’m a Communications Coach (in case you didn’t already know that) who teaches exercises to change the brain’s fight-or-flight response right in the moment. My coaching philosophy is: When you are confident, focused & authentic with your message, you are a magnet to those you wish to attract.
In every public speech I make in my business, I pause at this point to let it soak in, then reiterate it by repeating it. So, why not? When you are confident, focused & authentic with your message, you are a magnet to those you wish to attract. (Yes, even you.)
I have a lot of tools in my coaching toolbox already, but over the past few months, I’ve been attending training to become certified in hypnosis as one additional tool. It’s a little scary even admitting that to the world, because frankly hypnosis has a reputation as being a little “out there.” Most people think of stage shows & gimmicks when they think of hypnosis: “When I say the word ‘green,’ you will bark like a dog, & when I say the word ‘blue,’ you will cluck like a chicken.” Picture the rolling eyes emoji here. That’s me rolling my eyes.
While technically, yes, this is one form of hypnosis, the stuff I’m studying is called hypnotherapy, & it’s really a form of mental training. In fact, part of what so interested me in the course—other than the fact that my friend, colleague & personal hypnotherapist Randi Light is teaching the course (more on her later)—is that it includes a lot of training on NLP, or Neuro-Linguistic Programming. There will be a link to a future post someday soon, but for now, you can just Google the term. NLP is something I already use with clients, but it has so many facets & tools of its own, I’m thrilled to be learning more.
Hypnosis, on the other hand ….
Let me start with a description of my friend Randi. First & foremost, she is petite & powerful. About five-foot-none, Randi never seems short … until you see her next to a tall person. Then she seems like a magical pixie sprite! She has curly hair that she lets stay natural; wears flowing, blousy shirts & skirts sometimes even patterned with paisleys; & is a former vegetarian who doesn’t even own a microwave. (I learned this last fact today at her house when I naively thought I would “nuke my coffee.”) Externally, she & I look very different, as I’m often seen in business jackets & my signature glasses—when I’m not in my mom uniform of maternity jeans (yes, 7 months later), tank top & requisite stains of baby spit-up. (Don’t pity me too much; I actually got a shower today.) I, too, am petite & powerful, but I do take up more physical space than Randi does. I may be a bit of a closeted hippie, myself, but Randi is often outwardly described by others as a hippie. She, for these & lots of other reasons, is what I think of when I think of hypnosis. She believes in guardian angels, past lives, & raising the vibrational energy of Mother Earth, & she’s not afraid to admit it.
My clients are small business owners & sales professionals who have Type A personalities. They struggle with perfectionism, work-life balance, & fear of both success & failure—& sometimes they even balk at the idea of meditation. One of the many tools I give them is goal visualization, often in the form of a recording of my voice, guiding them through a visualization exercise. I use NLP techniques … but I also guide them into a meditative state to help them better focus on visualizing their goals. However, I don’t always overtly announce that’s what I’m doing. “Visualization” is a much easier mode for most of my clients to accept than meditation.
But meditation is something some of my clients are already doing even before they come to see me. Hypnosis on the other hand….
What’s the point of hypnosis in its hypnotherapy form? My favorite explanation is one Randi uses: Hypnosis is meditation with a goal. Today was Day 2 of 5 of our 2nd round of training ‘weeks,’ & we were working on regression. Not only did I get the honor & privilege of hypnotizing Randi to help her heal some of her own stuff, I got the added honor & privilege of being hypnotized by Randi in front of the group. It was powerful & amazing—& it came with a great mini-mindfulness technique that I’ve already been able to use at home a couple of times this very evening after class. That technique is another NLP tool called anchoring. (Google it, too, while you wait for one more post.) When life stresses me out, I can either visualize myself striking a specific pose—head back, arms & legs straight out almost like a 5-pointed star—or I can actually put my body into that pose, & I’m filled with an amazing, intense feeling of pure confident joy. Toddler melting down? Star pose. Husband complaining about life? Star pose. Other people’s $h!t getting in the way of my bliss? Star pose! It’s an anchor & a power posture rolled into one. Yeah, Google that, too.
Day 2 Mini-Mindfulness Tool:
Star Pose, my own power posturing anchor for joy that brings me fully aware of my own body, my own goals, my own emotions & simultaneously rejects other people’s junk, thereby separating any impending sense of co-dependence. Try your own empowering anchor for immediate awareness & love. How else were you mindful today?